- Don’t wear clothing (or shoes or purses) with loud colors or bold patterns, because this draws attention to you. Beige is a good choice.
- Keep the volume of your voice low, your hand gestures calm, and your facial expression composed. Again, there’s no need to be the center of attention, so maintain your dignity.
- Don’t use fake flowers to decorate your home. Cut flowers, potted plants, and even dried flowers are the only choices.
- Drinks are more appealing if you present them to your guests in pretty stemware or crystal shot glasses. Never use disposable cups.
- Don’t let your husband take over household finances and bill paying.
- Don’t keep people waiting.
- Less is more when it comes to wearing jewelry. And most costume jewelry is tacky, anyhow.
- Don’t be hesitant to tell your adult children that you do not approve of their questionable and/or morally unsound behavior. You are older and therefore wiser.
- Wear modest clothes to church.
- Don’t waste your time reading books or watching TV simply for the fun of it. You should always be working on improving your mind.
- If someone gives you a gift or grants you a favor, you should always reciprocate as soon as possible so you are not beholden to anyone.
- Feed your guests promptly and then send them home with leftovers.
- Your dinner guests deserve to be served at least three different meats, a dessert, and accompanying alcoholic beverages.
- Polish holiday traditions are the best, so adding other traditions is unnecessary.
- Messy handwriting reflects poorly on you and your intellectual abilities.
- “Jak cię widzą, tak cię piszą” which is a Polish proverb roughly translated to “How they see you, that’s how they perceive you.” Therefore, always make a good first impression.
- Be strong, be stubborn, but always remain a lady.
Monica Lists 